The brain’s wellbeing, and your mojo, (or serotonin) stands on the opposite side of meta-messages. Words we communicate to mask meaning can sink us like a punt on a tsunami. Sincere, kind and truthful words on the other hand, can propel us to the peaks.
Meta-messages say what isn’t meant and mean what isn’t said.
Have you noticed how meta-messages leave victims racing for escape hatches? We begin to question flaws between words when what we hear is not what the speaker means. How does it happen?
The use of meta messages indicates a lack of interpersonal intelligence. We tend to use meta-messages instead of honest communications, and then wonder why others tend to bolt. Luckily, it doesn’t have to be that way.
Meta-messages can also come from undeveloped interpersonal or linguistic intelligences, and sadly they torpedo the very people we hope to win over as friends. These moody masks also kill brainpower for future exchanges whenever meta-messages …
In sales, dive-bomb consumers at a business like a vulture swoops down for its kill. In response, folks flee. Brain shut down with cortisol that comes through insincere statements such as, How are you? when you really mean, “How’s your bank account?”
In conflict, state meta-messages such as – All’s OK – when it’s not, and you’re really holding a grudge about unspoken problems. Amygdalas flare, like lightning strikes iron rods, through meta-messages insincerity of words.
In learning, we pretend we understand long before we do, and we watch those we lead default back to ruts because we failed to speak sincerely, and so others could not apply new facts accurately.
In communication, we claim no feelings hurt, when emotions were literally crushed, and that meta-message sends convoluted meanings that leaves whole circles with mental regrets.