Motherhood for me was hands down the most important, challenging and meaningful role in my life. Not because I got it right all of the time. Nor was parenting easy as a single mom when days slipped into nights with too much to do and too little sleep to keep up. In spite of life’s misgivings and my own missteps though, my daughter was God’s greatest gift. A lifetime later I wouldn’t change a thing about her awesome person, or the love she shares with kind generosity to so many!
Making Memories from Differences
Have you noticed how a child’s expression of love back or any recognition of even the smallest thing a mother does right – goes a long way to make harder parenting parts both doable and fun? My daughter made motherhood awesome when she was younger. Then in her teenage years – those times we understood and enjoyed one another’s different views most were by far my favorite memories together!
Celebrate Daughter’s Day
When my daughter was young she often said we should celebrate a Daughter’s Day and I agree! And on Daughter’s Day – I love to showcase her views more and enjoy the depth of her insights about anything we share together by communicating my deep appreciation. Yes, Mother’s Day for me now is also Daughter’s Day when I especially value Tan’s awesome parenting skills to my two darling little grandchildren.
Feel Distant or Disappointed?
What do you do when you detect distance or disappointment that forces its way between mothers and children? Regret sometimes seem to ride on wings of wishing you could see into a child’s inner ideas from hearing words unspoken, so you can finally understand those missing communicated parts. Even when love clearly remains constant, whenever we miss a daughter or son’s deeper meanings we also miss a chance to love them tangibly as we desire. We miss memory-building-moments that awaken that fierce and awesome love we hold for them. Locked-in-love that came with birth and never leaves, yet fails to show at times when needed most. Have you been there?
Missing Care they Feel for You?
Yes, that same lack of understanding exists for children who miss keen insights from a mother’s view, and somehow miss seeing her genuine care for them. Care that makes them stronger and able to see unchanging love a mother brings, even on days she communicates it less well than they crave or deserve. No question, she likely lets go too much on days they need her care, or holds on too tightly when they crave freedom, as she wobbles along unknown parenting paths sad if they miss her lasting love when she trips and fails.
So we meet disappointed teens reaching out to be heard at deeper levels, and parents reaching back with the same deep longing. It doesn’t have to be that way. Mother’s Day seems to be a perfect opportunity for instance, to bring mom’s and adolescents together in symbiotic care. Mother’s Day could teach curious teens and moms from delightful surprises embodied within their shared and separate views.