Check out your internal dialogue – and accurately predict brainpower in your day, week, and life.
Monitor your Inner Voice
Research shows how inner discourse holds a mighty influence on mental and emotional health. Self-talk literally determines your success opportunities, and predicts your wins.
Does your inner dialogue short circuit or fortify possibilities?
Self-talk that fuels your confidence and frees you to develop and use new talents, takes awareness. How can you sharpen an alertness to upgrade from negative to possibility self-talk?
Reboot inner monologues before naysaying becomes your self-fulfilling prophecy.
Monitor your inner voice.
Set a timer to ring every hour for one day and at each ring, jot down your specific thoughts. Count every unchecked negative inner statement and you may be surprised how your inner voice can spell trouble.
Diffuse Flawed Self-Talk to Open New Wonder
1). Run from regrets such as Wish I had … Rather than hold yourself responsible for what’s not always in your control, why not reframe your next step forward. Ask what if … and visualize the next positive step toward a solution. When you run past missed chances by focusing on new opportunities – wisdom illumines novel opportunities ahead.
2). Avoid it’s-always-been-that-way-thinking, with inner words such as, I already do … Rather than default back to tired routines, run from ruts stored and replayed in the basal ganglia, with its propensity for timeworn everything. Break the cycle of rigid routines by overriding your mental storehouse. Inwardly articulate adventures for a life-changing experience.
3). Calm your amygdala with words such as, what would it look like to act the person I’d like others to see in me today? Tame the brain’s amygdala with confident inner language that builds finer messages to win over life’s difficult situations. Speak possibilities and reset the default that pulls you down with negative or self-diminishing inner talk.
4). Reverse moods with words such as What if I chased one new initiative with good moods only at the helm? Then fuel your inner conversations toward a successful next step opportunity toward your newly planned venture.
5). Flip negative assumptions with words such as, If they had it to do again, they’d likely have …Add ideas and inspiration people would come if people sensed your care and support, and felt your forgiveness. Then repeat these words until you react positively to those people, in spite of their behavior.
Act on new self-talk and your brain simulates positive aspects – like ticker-tape typed across the brain. Alter self-speaking to winner status, and expect success in future. When you rid your discourse from that never ending pattern of defeat, room for triumph emerges.
Inner talk changes lives daily, with a simple filter change to rewire flawed beliefs about who you are. Speak inwardly instead – about openings that engage the leader you hope to become.
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Very rejuvenating post. Self-talk is quite effective in synchronizing your thoughts and actions help to control emotions and help to take right decisions at the right time.
Dan thanks for the catch up. In my case – I’ve just had a beautiful new grandaughter – Frankie (my namesake – after my second name) Nothing compares to that blesseing! I plan to send you photo on Twitter:-)
Dan, I am intrigued here by your tactics that segue into finer awareness. Want to think more about your notion of interuppting the underlying reactions:-) Especially busy here at the moment – and so grateful to still be doing what we love!
Hi Ellen — Just catching up with your great posts. Obviously, this one hits close to home. There are many thought “interventions” that can help turn things around. One of my personal favorites is noticing comparisons between self and others and the judgments that follow, either positive or negative. In the end, I may agree with the judgment, but by noticing it I have a chance to interrupt the underlying reaction and examine what’s going on — that, in turn, gets me closer to a place of peace and openness.